I’ve been pretty mentally exhausted lately that posting a blog post has been low on the To Do List. But I wanted to share something that I read just now, that felt like a lightening strike.
First, read this article.
Now here’s comment #885 of that article, which I’m going to copy in its entirety, just in case it gets lost in subsequent comments:
I don’t know if God has a plan; some days I am not at all sure about God. But there is good and evil; there is suffering and grace (the experience of unexpected and amazing joy, beauty, goodness in an often overwhelmingly dark and cruel world). Chris has experienced both extremes and so has earned the right to speak with authority. He shapes the understanding of his suffering in terms of his religious faith. He has that right and no one needs to find offense in that. His story is not a judgment on other people’s lives; he is not saying that his mother and brother didn’t deserve to live. He is saying that the fact of his survival is both amazing and a burden, and he had to find a way to live with the guilt of survival. He had to find a way to make his life worthy in the face of their death.
To the cynical bloggers I pose a question: Are you wondering on some level –Why did God “speak” to Chris? Why am I left to suffer without any profound response from the universe? I have no answer to that. Just as Chris initially had no answer to the question, Why me and why not my mother or brother? and had to find an answer he could live with. But would it make you any happier to learn that Chris subsequently succumbed to the horror of his life story and destroyed himself with drugs or alcohol? Of course not.
So the only important question is not about Chris but about your own life. What is your Why? In other words, are you allowing your personal suffering to define your life? Do you have the courage that even Nietzsche, the most famous atheistic existentialist, exhibited — the courage to search for a reason for personal suffering despite intellectual, physical, and emotional pain and suffering. And Nietzsche believed we had to create our meaning, we had the power to choose our own answer. Chris has chosen his.
It sounds like some of you are angry that Chris has faith. But maybe you are angry because you don’t. And I don’t mean faith in God necessarily, I am not trying to preach religion. I mean faith in goodness, faith in grace. Without faith in something positive it is difficult to have any hope; without hope it is difficult to believe in the possibility of love or joy. And that is a true tragedy. I, for one, am incredibly thankful that Chris has found faith and has created a loving and joy-filled life for himself despite the horror he experienced as a child and the burden he carries of his own survival.
“He who has a Why to live can bear with almost any How.” Friedrich Nietzsche.
What I like about this commentor is how respectful she is to both theistic believer and non-believer alike. And the fact that she doesn’t quote the obvious “What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger” Nietsche line — which has unfortunately turned into a platitude since N’s death — also increases just how much I like MonaVilla’s thoughtful commentary.
“He who has a Why to live can bear any How” — amen.