A Teen’s Baby Shower

I suppose I should say “two teens”, since both the father and mother are still in high school.

It’s ironic that, because of her diabetes, my kid sister has never been a mother but she’s been a stepmom many times over and, in two cases (including just this year), she’s been or will have been a stepgrandmother, all while she’s in her 30’s.

It was kind of surreal attending this evening’s baby shower, since my parents hosted the shower.  Since my kid sister’s not married to the guy’s father, technically she’s not his stepmom (at least, not any time soon).  But what’s funny in Hispanized families (in this case, Mexican and Filipino), something like the legalities of marriage don’t seem to matter, especially if there’s a baby involved.

So my mom acted like a great-grandma-to-be, while my kid sister and her boyfriend did the roles of the soon-to-be paternal grandparents.  (Which is WAAAY weird to me, since my sister’s only 18 months younger than I am, and her boyfriend’s only a couple of years or so older than I am).  The soon-to-be teen parents were very much the high school kids that they are, which reminded me of my own days in that same high school — back in the 1980’s, my old high school was known for two things: 1) false bomb threats and 2) teenage pregnancies.

Anyways, I guess that would make me… bleah, it’s too late in the evening to figure out what that would make me — common-law step-great aunt?  Does that even make sense?  Maybe it’s the too many cupcakes I ate (Daniel ate about three or four).

Okay, signing off now.  I’m rambling.  However, one final thought from the ersatz great-aunt: here’s hoping for a happy, healthy baby, and much happiness to the two very young parents.  Oh, and one more final thought from the teacher: FINISH SCHOOL.



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If single-mothering were a paid job, I'd be rich. However, it doesn't, so I write (which doesn't pay the bills) and teach (which does). I'm overly-educated in the liberal arts, but that doesn't hinder my ability to be pragmatic and realistic. YAY.
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3 Responses to A Teen’s Baby Shower

  1. Heather says:

    No I don’t think it’s a Catholic thing. I’ve seen two instances where there was pressure to get married. One in my family and one in the in-laws (different generations). The older generation got married before the birth. The younger generation wasn’t married until a year or more after the birth. Their priest even suggested he could throw in a marriage with the baptism. They declined and had a big wedding later. Throw in an even older generation’s giving up twins for adoption in a similar event (father never replied to letters, WWII). I do think the Hispanic culture is a little different about it. I had a Mexican friend comment about a mutual friend who was putting a baby up for adoption while in college. The Mexican friend just could not understand it.

  2. lizardqueen says:

    Hey, Roger,

    It’s not so much the adoption part but the “So what if they’re not married — there’s a baby on the way!” that removes the stigma of unmarried teen pregnancies. Baby shower, Christianing ceremony, all of that — without one mention of “So, when are you two getting married?” to sully the wonderful news of a new baby.

    Maybe it’s not so much a Hispanic thing but a Catholic thing? 🙂 It’s funny — “You get pregnant when not married, you bring shame on the family!” gets thrown around, but when it actually happens, the threat isn’t followed through.

  3. Roger says:

    I don’t think it’s just a hispanic culture “thing.” People tended to adopt younger ones in South Texas quite often.

    I have an great uncle who was “adopted” when his parents died, he fully considers himself part of the family. No lawyers necessary in that day. 🙂

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