Parent-type folks told me this would happen, but I had to experience it before I could grok it:

Pre-mommyhood, my big priorities were set in being successful professionally, having an active social life, helping as many people as I can (in that “I Wanna Make a Difference” sort of way), and being efficient in my day-to-day, multi-tasking chores and errands.

Now… well now, my big priority is just this: make my little boy happy.   It’s put other things — my big plans for my job, my professional ambitions; making a big splash in reforming education; getting my dissertation published; going out to see the latest movies, funky stores, museum showings, coffee shops, et al. — very much DOWN DOWN DOWN on that ol’ priority list of mine.

My priorities these days are take care of Daniel (outside daycare and at-home caregiving), work at my dayjob, maintain the household.  Rinse, lather, repeat.

In the big scheme of things, I’m not that important — not in my field, not in my job, not in my neighborhood/city/country/planet.  But to my little boy — who will be two months old come Thanksgiving — I’m his whole world.

That’s a big responsibility and, not unrelated, a gift that can’t be taken for granted.

I now know what real unconditional love feels like.

I wouldn’t trade it for the world.


About lizardqueen

If single-mothering were a paid job, I'd be rich. However, it doesn't, so I write (which doesn't pay the bills) and teach (which does). I'm overly-educated in the liberal arts, but that doesn't hinder my ability to be pragmatic and realistic. YAY.
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2 Responses to Priorities

  1. lizardqueen says:

    The kiddo will be evaluated for ADHD this week. I had to re-read this old blog entry of mine, just so I can keep everything in perspective. ADHD or no ADHD, my little boy is perfect, in every way. He is exactly as he should be — and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

  2. celogo says:

    Awww… I got moosebumps. Hugs. Love ya

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